Whenever you catch yourself thinking negative, self-defeating thoughts about your career, stop those thoughts dead in their tracks by snapping a rubber band (e.g., the fat kind that come in the mail) on your wrist, while saying to yourself, “Stop this silly thinking right now.”
Next, substitute more rational thoughts such as the following:
- “I have helped many clients have the peace of mind that my wealth management plan has provided for them and their families.”
- “I have special skills that make me a real asset as an advisor.”
- “All advisors make mistakes and no one is perfect. Certainly none of us can accurately predict the market and economy. I can forgive myself for not being perfect as I continue to elevate my skills and serve my clients to the best of my ability.”
Once you practice eliminating the negative, self-sabotaging thoughts that have kept your true gifts buried, and replace those thoughts with healthy, rational, positive thoughts about your success, you will begin to separate yourself from the competition, build your book of business and flourish in your advising career!
Action Plan:
- Make a list of the negative, self-destructive thoughts that go through your mind about your career. Be honest with yourself and write them all down.
- Have a written list of positive, rational thoughts about your career (as in the examples above).
- Discover the variety of thought stopping techniques that can be found in my book, The Financial Advisor’s Ultimate Stress Mastery Guide, and practice them daily. It’s really easy!
Dr. Jack Singer is a professional psychologist, speaker and a Stress Mastery Mentor for smart financial advisors, like you. He is the author of “The Financial Advisor’s Ultimate Stress Mastery Guide,” which can be ordered in the FA Mag Bookstore, using this link: /book--ultimate-stress-mastery-guide. To learn more about Dr. Jack’s keynote speaking and exclusive mentoring services for financial advisors and his unique, referral-generating program for your next Client Appreciation Event, contact Jack at [email protected], call him at 1-800-497-9880 and read more at http://www.advisingtheadvisors.com.