The question is, how does a retiree maintain an active, challenging life? The answer is, never stop.
If your only reason for doing what you do
Is to have enough money
To no longer have to do it
Then what will you do
When you're done?
You may find
That a big part of you
Was in the doing
And that an important part
Is now undone.
A job may be finished
But the piece of you
That does the work
Is never done.
It is difficult for people to separate who they are
from what they do--and for a very good reason. For many, what they do
is nothing more than a professional expression of who they are. For
these people, retirement dates loom like a stayed execution date. They
wonder, "What's in my retirement afterlife?"
I have noted this to be especially true of
professionals (lawyers, doctors, advisors, etc.) who have the kind of
work that every day demands the use of their intelligence, intuition
and experience. Will these brain/soul/spirit functions get the
necessary unction from a game of golf and crossword puzzles? For those
of us who prize the privilege of solving problems and puzzles, creating
solutions and tapping our mental fecundity, the answer is an emphatic
NO!
I see the fear of languishing in the eyes of these
people as they move with apprehension toward this date of "extraction."
There is a hint of hesitance in their voices and a trace of trepidation
in their souls as they amble toward the cultural expectation of what
they ought to do at age 62 or 65. But why should it be this way?
I tell one preretiree after another, "Don't let
anybody tell you when you are finished," and, "As long as you have
something to offer, offer something." Many of these people are afraid
they are headed toward an all-or-nothing, cold-turkey retirement where
they are forced to turn off important and fulfilling parts of who they
are. This leftover foolishness is from another era--one that has been
laid to rest in the Industrial Age graveyard.
It doesn't have to be 40-hour weeks and 50 weeks a
year. You can work at any pace you choose ... for whatever periods you
choose.
The Flow Of Intellectual Capital
Maybe it's time for white-collared professionals to
start wearing hard hats to work, because there is something precious
and irreplaceable at work under those hats. What clearly pays these
days is intellectual capital--what you know, how well you know it,
street savvy, know-how, know-who, rainmaking relationships, contextual
understanding, a knowledge of history and strategic insight.
How do you turn all this off? And once you do, how
do the businesses and institutions recover from the loss of such
precious capital? It is what's between your ears that makes the world
of business go around these days. Every institution, whether it's for
profit or nonprofit, is like a lung needing oxygen--relying on the
intellectual and experiential capital of its members. This sort of
capital is not easily replaced and has worth in two ways: 1) It brings
in money when you know how to get it done and who to work with; and 2)
It pays your sense of personal esteem to exercise this capital on an
ongoing basis.
Let's not lose sight of Maslow's Hierarchy here. The
second to last step (before self-actualization) is esteem. Once we stop
using our intellectual capital, we are abandoning a source of esteem
that has served us throughout our professional lives. What well will we
tap esteem from next? I'll never forget the fellow who told me of being
stopped on the street by a woman who asked him, "Didn't you used to be
Dr. Jones?" He went from "Who's Who" to "Who's he?" in a heartbeat.
I feel good about myself when I read and think and
philosophize. I feel good about my life when I write down my thoughts
and give speeches that help people in their journeys. I feel good about
who I am when a company calls and wants to hear my ideas on a given
project or topic. If these activities and this flow of intellectual
capital were removed from my life once and for all, I think I might go
crazy and take familial hostages along with me. I don't believe I'm
alone on this point either.
I don't think I can get this same effect from RV
trips, three-hour morning coffees or endless rounds of golf. Will I
slow down some in later years and maybe adjust the pace a bit? Quite
possibly. Maybe I'll occasionally take a month off instead of the
sporadic week. There's a big difference between turning down the faucet
and letting the pipes freeze.
I want the flow to continue from my mind and soul to
the world I live in ... and back again. I believe that there are many
others who desire this all-important flow of intellectual capital to
help them stay plugged into the world in which they live and the person
within. For those who have exercised intellect, imagination and wits in
their careers, this is an issue they cannot afford to ignore.
I had this conversation with my lawyer the other
day. He's approaching that age where people think about retirement--and
he doesn't like the idea at all. He seemed comforted to hear that
someone agreed. Soon after, I had another conversation with a
successful local advisor who also was bothered by the idea of being out
of the flow with ideas and people--which this business offers in
plenty. He just wants longer periods off and to know that the shop
won't implode while he's away.
Maybe the question advisors should ask a potential
professional retiree is, "What do you plan on doing with your
manufacturing equipment when you retire?"
You'll probably get a cross-eyed look and an answer
something like, "I don't have any manufacturing equipment."
You can answer with a question such as, "What did
you use to make your money?" You will then be well on your way to a
fruitful conversation regarding their personal intellectual capital and
how they plan on investing it in the years ahead.
New Heroes For A
New Era: Retirementors
Recently, after speaking to a client gathering in
California, I was approached by a man who looked to be in his early
fifties. He was a Chinese-American gentleman who told me he had run a
successful dental practice for years and now was just showing up "now
and then" because he was busy with a number of other causes, including
a real estate company, a benevolent association, a local college where
he was a regent, the International College of Dentists where he was a
president (in addition to three other professional associations), a
local bank where he was chairman of the board-and more.
This doctor also informed me that through the years
he has returned to his home village in China to build a school, a
modern water system and a temple. Stunned at his productivity at such
an age, I asked him how old he was. "I'm 83," he informed me, "and I
think I have a lot of good years left. I appreciate very much your
message because I think many people have many more good years than they
think, if they will just stay with it."
You could've knocked me over with a feather. This
man at 83 had the skin of a man in his 40s, the articulateness of a
talk-show host, the perspicacity and acuity of a surgeon at work, the
energy of a dot.com marketing exec and the unmistakable shine in his
eye of someone who not only made his own way in the world but also set
his own finish line. I walked away from that conversation with a new
hero and role model for how I want to be in my eighties.
He is a retirementor. And we need more of them for
inspiration's sake! At my new free consumer Web site,
newretirementality.com, we are gathering retirementor stories for this
purpose, to inspire those who think differently to act differently, to
be masters of their own destiny, to refuse to accept society's norms
for deciding when the game is finished and to be enthused by the belief
that while the aging process continues, being OLD is in their locus of
control.
I have an unusual and privileged vantage point on
this issue as I travel throughout the country inspiring people to make
their own rules and decisions, to think twice before they lay their
talents on the campfire, and to move from aging to saging. After my
presentation, the best examples of what I'm talking about walk up and
introduce themselves and their amazing stories. These bright,
articulate, purposeful and grateful individuals tell me remarkable,
life-changing stories. Oh, and by the way, they are always looking for
ways to spend their intellectual capital--and many get paid for it as
well.
Rearview Mirror
How do you and your clients avoid the deleterious
impact of retirement? Many already are looking ahead, realizing that
someday they will need to apply their brakes suddenly--with their lives
coming to a screeching halt. How can you help them avoid this
undesirable condition of "retirement whiplash," in which reality
suddenly catches up with their decisions? I suggest having a
conversation about their work, their intellectual capital and the
things they do to fuel their personal esteem and expression. You might
find many a willing participant for this discussion in the professional
ranks. Age has nothing to do with it. It's all about what a person
brings to the game and how he or she longs to play. There's nothing
wrong with the move from being a starter to a role player in the next
phase of life, just as long as you still have game.
I love to go down to the local gym and shoot
baskets. When I'm there, I often see another gentleman shooting as
well. One day we fell into a conversation about how much we enjoyed
staying active in basketball. I mentioned that I hoped to be able to
shoot baskets when I was 80. He told me he was 68 years old and that
the key was very simple--"Don't ever quit," he admonished. "I've
watched a lot of people use little pains as excuses, and when they try
to take it up later it's too hard."
I looked at him with new eyes. He looked limber,
much younger than his age, and fluid in his motion--and I knew he was
right. No extended time completely out of the game for me. No time to
think up excuses. I enjoy this too much.
©2007 Mitch Anthony. All Rights
Reserved. Mitch is the president of the Financial Life Planning
Institute and Advisor Insights Inc. He is an industry leader in
training advisors on building life-centered relationships. His numerous
books include The New Retirementality and Your Clients for Life. He can
be reached at [email protected].