Remembering what's most important. Despite the emotionality, one thing is paramount. "The client comes first. No exceptions," maintains A.J. Sohn at Antaeus Wealth Advisors in Boxborough, Mass.
Indeed, eldercare is "a specialization," says David Okrent, an elder-law attorney in Dix Hills, N.Y. If you can't hack it, you'd better "seek assistance from an advisor who does," he says.